Question: ..... Should you change or make someone change for the simple fact of "so-called"love?
I was having a conversation last night with a man who was in love with a girl who loved him as well, but wanted him to change some habits. He did work for the relationship by trying to change, but said that her nagging got old after awhile. hmmmm.....Love? or "so-called" Love?
I am so sick of people trying to change who they've become for love. Come on people! The person that you are supposed to be with for the rest of your life should love you for who you are! Yes, there will be things that are bothersome, but if you love the person those "things" should become blurry so that you are able to look past them. I understand that a person might grow in a relationship by changing for the better and someone might change interests, thoughts on certain issues, etc, BUT... I'm talkin about personality and characteristics that define someone. Why would someone spend the majority of their childhood trying to find themselves when they are not going to be strong enough to stand up and be proud of who they've become?! Bottom line, if someone who is supposed to be your significant other wants you to change who you are, RUN! There is someone in this world who will LOVE you for all of the characteristics you have chosen to define yourself.
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Yes, you should not change who you are or what you believe when you enter a relationship. Hang on to your values and who you are. But, in a marriage their will be some things you will have to compromise on. Such as...Josh hates that I pick at my fingernails an I hate that he chomps ice. So we TRY to not do those things around each other. There will always be small things to compromise on, but your basic beliefs and doing the things you love doing? You should not have to change those things...
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